With the divorce rate higher then it’s ever been, today more then ever, couples need to ask each other serious questions before setting their sights on marriage. Passion and good sex are not enough to sustain a relationship into the double-digits. It’s important that couples ask each about children, finances, credit scores, career goals, and pets. Yes, I said pets! Pet’s can only bring blessings to a marriage if both people are committed pet lovers. The issue of having pets can be either bonding or damaging to a relationship. Any pet owner who’s thinking about marriage needs to ask the following three questions.
Does Your Partner Like Cats/ Dogs/ Snakes?
It does not matter what kind of animal you have; however, it is important that both people share a loving bond with the animal or animals in question. Some people only like dogs, cats, snakes, ferrets – just one particular animal. A dog lover and a cat lover will not necessarily get along since these animals embody different characteristics. For example, a dog owner will most likely spend time outdoors with their pet, while a cat owner doesn’t have to venture past their front door with theirs. Pets influence your lifestyle. Those who show a strong love for either dogs or cats are coming from a worldview that may not intermix with the opposite. Those who love all animals are the ideal candidates for marriage. If the species of the pet is an issue between partners, lifestyle choices may later become an issue as well.
Will Pets be Members of the Family?
For some, pets are objects of entertainment and human enjoyment. However, for the vast majority of people, animals are members of the family. When this kind of bond forms with one member of the relationship and not the other, not only can the union be in danger, but also the pet. One person may become jealous of the love being showered on the pet and begin to act out in a way that may hurt the animal emotionally, which can ruin the other partner, who feels like their pet is family. Imagine how you would feel if someone disrespected your family member.
On the other hand, if both people consider the pet to be a member of the family, the animal will become a uniting force in the marriage, intensifying the couple’s love and commitment. It is crucial that when you’re seeking your life partner that you can ask them, “Will our pets be actual members of the family?”
Prenuptial agreements: Who Gets the Pets?
Prenuptial agreements are not just for assets. It is important that a couple understand who will be given custody of pets if they separate or divorce. While this may seem like an impossible decision, the end of a marriage should not mean the end of a relationship with the pet. In a prenuptial agreement, the future bride and groom need to put into writing pet-care responsibilities.
When people marry, they often get caught up in the fantasy of marriage. They often fail to recognize the trail of responsibilities that come along with the turf. Asking these questions, as well as many others, can make for a happy marriage.