In-law family relationships have often been the pun of many jokes. While it is true that some in-law family relationships are a bit rocky, there is no reason why you can’t turn that around with some understanding, caring, and nurturing. Here are tips to improve in-law family relationships.
Tips for Mother-In-Laws
Remember that you don’t have to play into the stereotypical mother/daughter-in-law relationships that never seem to be very positive. Instead, try building a nurturing and healthy relationship with your daughter-in-law.
Here are some tips to help you get off to a good start with your daughter-in-law
- Accept your daughter-in-law for who she is.
- Make a point to spend time together, just the two of you.
- Don’t give advice unless she asks for it.
- Don’t expect your daughter-in-law to do everything the way you did it.
- Avoid criticism, and instead look for positive things that you can comment on.
- Remember that a healthy relationship with your daughter-in-law means a good relationship with your son, as well.
Tips for Daughter In-Laws
Remember that your mother-in-law was the central focus of your husband’s life for many years. It may take some time for her to get used to the fact that he’s not her “little boy” anymore. Your husband still loves and cares for his mother, and it’s important to him that the two of you get along.
Here are some tips that you can use to help build a strong mother/daughter-in-law family relationship:
- Be considerate of your mother-in-law, and be respectful of her experience in life.
Ask for her advice when it’s appropriate.
- Even if you don’t agree with her, let her know that you respect her opinion.
- Be honest about how you are feeling, and let her know in a kind way if she oversteps her boundaries.
- Invite her over, or take her out to dinner, just the two of you.
- Take time to get to know her, and look for the positive things about her, that you can build a relationship on.
Tips for Father In-Laws
Don’t think of your son-in-law as the man who “stole your little girl.” Instead try to think of him as a new member of the family, an adopted son. Your daughter loves and respects you, and she wants you and her husband to get along, so it is important that you try hard to build a good family relationship with your son-in-law.
Here are some tips to help get you off to a great start:
- Don’t treat your son-in-law like a child, remember he is a full grown, married man.
- Take time to get to know your son-in-law. Look for the good things that your daughter saw in him.
- Make an effort to spend some time together, just the two of you. Go to sporting events, or watch football together. Find ways for the two of you to “bond” as men.
- As hard as it will be, you may need to give up your role as protector of your daughter. Remember that now she’s a grown woman, and she can take care of herself.
Tips for Son-In-Laws
Your father-in-law wants to know that you are going to take good care of his daughter and that you will love and respect her. You will surely gain his respect by treating your wife with love and respect.
Here are some tips to help you build a good family relationship with your father-in-law.
- Let him know that you will be good to his daughter.
- Make an effort to get to know him, as a person.
- Ask for his advice whenever it’s appropriate.
- Even if you disagree with your father-in-law, let him know that you respect his opinion.